Parenting Like a Police Officer


Our second batch of kiddos has been a challenge since day one and has caused us to learn new and better ways to parent them with their set of challenges and ways we need to accommodate them. It could also be that We are several decades older than when I had my first batch of kiddos.

The first batch was not like the first pancake you throw out after you make it; they turned out to be amazing adults but have their challenging moments, too.

Reels were not a thing when I had my first batch of kiddos, and if I think long and hard about it, the internet may not have been a thing either, or rather just the start of the internet era.

I love to watch reels and send them to my husband, who is lying in bed next to me. I also like to send them to my adult children to remind them how much they love me.

Every once in a while, I will run across a reel that shakes me to the core. 

police officer

This particular one I sent to 20 people and explained how it was spot on, and that’s where parenting like a police officer began.

After a hard day with our 10-year-old, I was unwinding on my phone after he went to bed and ran across a reel that shook me. Our day had consisted of redirecting, lecturing,  lecturing again, and feeling like he just didn’t get what we were saying as we disciplined him. I ran across a parent challenging us to parent like a police officer.

He explained that if we are speeding as we are driving and get pulled over by a police officer, that police officer asks us if we know what we were doing to warrant getting pulled over, explains the law, writes us a ticket, and then sends us on our way. Before he lets you go, he says, “Have a nice day.”

We should do the same as parents and parent like a police officer.

When we find our child is doing something that we don’t want them to do, we need to ask them if they know what they are doing, tell them the consequences, and then move on (don’t belabor the point to rehash it over and over again), send them on their way and say “have a good day.”

The police officer doesn’t call you later that night and say, “Hey, let’s talk about that again and make sure you understand why I pulled you over…” He simply leaves you with a nice day sentiment.

This is a game-changer. I had no idea what lesson I would learn with this second batch of kiddos, but I’m still learning, and this time from a police officer.

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Cheryl Brackemyre
Hey local mommas! I grew up in Centerville, but I now live in Wilmington with my husband Tony. Together we have 6 kids, Joe, and his wife Allison, Austin, and his wife Hannah, Sydney and her husband Hayden, Andrew and his wife Lauren and our littles, Max and Eli. Did I mention we are a little nuts starting over with this parenting thing when we are 45+? We are officially adding new titles to our names in 2022- Tiki and Jeep (our version of Grandma and Grandpa). My husband and I are both ministers, and we get to work together in a local church. We were both married before and brought our families together in 2010. After a few years of marriage we felt God's leading for us to adopt. We added Max to our family in 2014 and Eli joined us in 2017, our quiver is officially full! Blending our family has been an adventure! Add some ex-spouses and two birth mommas and we have ourselves a crazy crew! Coffee is my love language. The beach is my happy place and I long to have my toes in the sand. I love being part of the team at Dayton Mom Collective.


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