I Open My Mouth and My Mother Comes Out


I am nearing the anniversary of my mother’s death.  She has been gone 6 years and the grief does not get easier, just different.

I miss her every day and wish for one more afternoon to sip tea and talk about our day.  I would love one more disagreement, and one more laugh until we pee our pants moment.

My mom and I were best friends. 


I loved when I became older and we could finally be friends. She said we couldn’t be friends until I was grown, so when this day finally came, I was elated. We talked about everything, and she had this amazing gift to know things before I told her. She knew how I was feeling before I would utter a word of explanation, and she always knew what to say to help me.

I remember her voice and her laugh and the words and phrases she used that were not common now, but from her generation, they were timeless.

Every once in a while the most amazing thing happens… I open my mouth and my mother comes out.

Same words, same tone, same phrases and inflection, and it is glorious.

For just a few moments, it is like she is here and all that she has been to me spills out.

Now, my mom was a firecracker and not all of the things she said were sweet, but they sure were spicy and I am here for it. Every time this happens, it catches me by surprise and delight.

It has happened so often that I get a little grin on my face when it does and begin to reflect on her words and my sweet husband will say, “Was that your mom?” He’s learned more about her through things I say than he ever did in the short while he was her son-in-law.

The impact she had on me was tremendous, and she lives on in me, so it makes sense that when I open my mouth, she comes out.

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Cheryl Brackemyre
Hey local mommas! I grew up in Centerville, but I now live in Wilmington with my husband Tony. Together we have 6 kids, Joe, and his wife Allison, Austin, and his wife Hannah, Sydney and her husband Hayden, Andrew and his wife Lauren and our littles, Max and Eli. Did I mention we are a little nuts starting over with this parenting thing when we are 45+? We are officially adding new titles to our names in 2022- Tiki and Jeep (our version of Grandma and Grandpa). My husband and I are both ministers, and we get to work together in a local church. We were both married before and brought our families together in 2010. After a few years of marriage we felt God's leading for us to adopt. We added Max to our family in 2014 and Eli joined us in 2017, our quiver is officially full! Blending our family has been an adventure! Add some ex-spouses and two birth mommas and we have ourselves a crazy crew! Coffee is my love language. The beach is my happy place and I long to have my toes in the sand. I love being part of the team at Dayton Mom Collective.



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